Why I Disagree with “The Other Woman”, aka A.Nonymous

As a cheated-upon former wife, I often read The Other Woman’s articles with interest and more than a little skepticism — I’ll admit that up front. I am not an unbiased reader.

She’s smart, and a little snarky/edgy, and I enjoy her writing.

Plus, her stated position as “The Other Woman” in her articles hooked me from the get-go.

But I frequently disagree with her. And this time I feel strongly enough to write a whole-ass response article.

I might be wrong here, but Imma write this anyway. Maybe I’ll learn something.

She recently wrote an article about “What kind of Person Has an Affair?”

She’s clearly spent a lot of time reading and thinking about this subject.

She lists three main points:

1. The Hardcore Hardwiring Problem.

2. The Good Person With a Skills Or Courage Deficit.

3. The Caregiving Cheater.

Under point 2, she says that “The secret here is all three people involved have a skills and courage deficit.”

“The secret here is all three people involved have a skills and courage deficit.”

To be super-duper clear, she’s blaming not just the husband/cheater, or the affair partner, but…