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The Caucasity: Abandoning Internationally Adopted Kids for His Bio Affair Baby
How do you co-parent with a man who does this?
The irony is that I picked him as a future partner, not because of chemistry, his looks, his success, his intelligence, or his wit. I picked him because I thought he would make a kind father.
I was supposed to marry a good Christian man, and so I arranged a marriage for myself. I had always been taught to mistrust romance and to shun sex and to just operate on sheer willpower, so I figured we would make it work no matter what. It will surprise almost none of you that I had never really dated.
I told my friends about him at the summer camp where we were serving as lead counselors. I remember that exact moment down by the creek in the mountains of North Carolina. “He would make a great dad,” I said, and that’s the moment I “fell” for him. It was a choice. So ignorant.
I also remember when we talked about starting a family. We were both teachers at the time. My friend had just given birth to her first child. I was already in my late twenties.
But even more do I remember watching a news report about orphans in a certain country who were old enough to walk, yet they were flat on their backs in their cribs, unable to stand, because no one ever held them. Lying in their…
