Look. I get why you wrote this. I’ve been there.

But I take issue with your whole premise.

Just because she, according to you, didn’t mean to be a bad person, or had a terrible childhood, doesn’t mean she gets a pass.

She was a bad person, and she hurt people.

There are many who have been through terrible childhoods who did not choose to hurt others.

I’m also holding space for my narcissists with compassion, but I had to fight for myself and my kids FIRST. I have always given the narcissists far more time and compassion than I have given myself.

And for damn sure I gave them more than they ever gave me.

We can love from a safe distance while simultaneously recognizing the very real evil and harm and pain.

It’s not wrong to call it out.

And it’s not the same as playing a victim role.

All the best as you continue to heal…