How Many Empaths Does it Take to Change a Narcissist?

None.

Zero times Infinity.

Doesn’t matter how many compassionate, forgiving, loving, boundary-setting, therapeutic people cross the narcissist’s path, *he won’t change.

The light will not come on. There will be no enlightenment.

It’s a double bind because narcissists DON’T CHANGE. If he is capable of true change, he was never a narcissist. Unless he had a Damascus Road conversion, struck blind by light out of heaven. I’m not ruling it out. I’m being as fair as I can. I REALLY WISH THEY COULD CHANGE.

They can only pretend to change in order to get supply, or to manipulate people, or to look better.

You’re not going to light up a black hole, no matter how incandescent you are. It just…sucks. He sucks all the light out of you, all the sparkle, all the joy and confidence and self-esteem.

The right question might be this:

How many narcissists does it take to change an empath?

Change how? For the better? Or to destroy?

If we go with the light bulb analogy, then we’re asking how long it takes for the empath to realize he/she is dealing with someone who can’t change and to walk away with boundaries and self-respect.