They’ve pushed themselves into a corner they can’t escape. They’ve helped put arguably the most dangerous and stupid man in our history into the biggest chair in the country. They’ve endangered democracy itself. If I hadn’t left fundamentalism, I could have been one of them, once upon a time. That’s…

You want to know a secret? Life with a covert narcissist is much easier than life after you leave him/her/them. Are you surprised? If you’ve lived with one and then escaped, you know the relief. But you also know how hard it is to heal afterwards. You know how drained…

An Experiment in Prayer A hurricane was coming, and I wasn’t ready. A few years ago, as a freshly divorced single mom in Florida, I was watching a hurricane form above Africa and start moving towards the US. I didn’t know how to drill plywood holes to cover the windows, even if I HAD some plywood. I grew…

Sometimes stories are truer than the truth What if the voice in your head is NOT yours? Since I deal with the aftermath of narcissism and other abuses in my life and in my clients’ lives, I’m constantly looking for ways to see problems more clearly or to explain them…

“You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.” ― William Goldman, The Princess Bride Bad News, Good News Doom is palpable these days — you can taste it, smell it, read about it, see it, and FEEL it. Certain top Medium writers…

There’s a well-known writer on Medium that I followed until recently. She took a strident pro-Amber position, and I just…couldn’t. Does that mean I should turn in my #MeToo card? Does that mean I was overly swayed by Johnny’s fame? The media circus? Am I misogynistic towards my fellow women? …

When A Narcissist Tries to Human Until they Discard you or you Unmask them, there’s no one nicer or more charming than a narcissist. Whether grandiose, covert, or white knights, they are all too visibly being Extra — either Extra powerful, controlling, and egotistical, or Extra charming and helpful (or…

But sometimes the dragon is invisible Smaug. Grendel. Bahamut. Leviathan. Basilisk. Dragons guard treasure and cause terror and havoc in the old stories; and they notice if you steal literally anything from their hoard, no matter how small. Do the dragons enjoy their treasure? They’re not using it or spending…