Did you ever try a Ouija board? Tarot? Mediums? Psychics? Do you have dreams that come true? Déjà vu? In ancient stories, people consulted oracles or examined the organs of dead animals for wisdom. We may consider ourselves much more modern and enlightened than consulting the liver of a dead…

It’s further than it looks This time of year, years ago, I moved into my first “home” with my then-husband. It was an A-frame at a camp in North Carolina. We were newlyweds, fresh off a terrible honeymoon on Anna Maria Island. I love the island, but it was a…

(Can You Guess what it is?) How many clues will it take for you to identify this “product”? Here we go: Anyone can get it. Probably. But they don’t. Some people say it’s not for everyone. Some people say it’s fake. There are so many copies of it that the…

And I’m kind of mad about it I used to sit in church and hear stories about “the children of Israel” and their trek through the wilderness to the Promised Land, a land “flowing with milk and honey” and full of giant clusters of grapes. And giants. Pretty tempting for…

They’ve pushed themselves into a corner they can’t escape. They’ve helped put arguably the most dangerous and stupid man in our history into the biggest chair in the country. They’ve endangered democracy itself. If I hadn’t left fundamentalism, I could have been one of them, once upon a time. That’s…

You want to know a secret? Life with a covert narcissist is much easier than life after you leave him/her/them. Are you surprised? If you’ve lived with one and then escaped, you know the relief. But you also know how hard it is to heal afterwards. You know how drained…

An Experiment in Prayer A hurricane was coming, and I wasn’t ready. A few years ago, as a freshly divorced single mom in Florida, I was watching a hurricane form above Africa and start moving towards the US. I didn’t know how to drill plywood holes to cover the windows, even if I HAD some plywood. I grew…

Sometimes stories are truer than the truth What if the voice in your head is NOT yours? Since I deal with the aftermath of narcissism and other abuses in my life and in my clients’ lives, I’m constantly looking for ways to see problems more clearly or to explain them…